Declutter Your Life: How to Organize Using Human Design

Human design and self-awareness can shape the way we organize, declutter, and live the vibrant life we want to live. 

In this episode, listen in on a conversation I have with Heather Dimick, host of the "What's that Whisper?" podcast. Our conversation focuses on practical tools for organizing your home and managing your energy based on your unique Human Design type. 

Self-awareness leads to self-compassion.

When you understand yourself better, you can honor your own way of doing things without judgment. 

• How do you typically approach organizing at home or work?
  • Do you make a plan?
  • Do you pull everything out and then decide what to put back?
• Consider one space you want to organize. 
  • What’s in the space? 
  • Is the space serving you? Are you at peace when you’re in that space?
  • Notice your energy. 
  • Decide if you have the energy to clean one shelf, clean an entire closet or if it is best to spend twenty minutes in another way? Keep projects as small as your energy allows. 

You can learn more about Heather’s work using the links below.

Links 

• Join Kelly's Group Coaching Program
• Heather Dimick Host of the "What’s that Whisper?" podcast

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Transcript

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Hey friends. Today I am talking to Heather from What's That Whisper. She's allowed me to share the conversation that she recorded for her podcast so that all of you could go into the new year, understanding yourself through the lens of human design and the Enneagram holding onto important things like getting a home organized so that it becomes a house you love coming home to. I hope you enjoy this podcast. Welcome to the Live A Vibrant Life podcast. I'm life coach Kelly Kibbitz, and each week I'll be here to encourage and equip you with the tools you need to grow in self-awareness and invest your best energy in your dreams and your purpose. I believe self-awareness changes everything. Let's get started. Welcome to"What's That Whisper?", I am here to remind people to hear their whispers. I'm super excited to introduce you to Kelly Tibbits. She's a life coach, talking about organizing, decluttering, human design and how we each operate and work. I think you're going to dive into so many good things. Can't wait to see how I work. I love that. I'm very excited to have this conversation with you Heather so thank you for inviting me. My world was transformed In 2016 When I was able to get my first life coach and do the work of what thoughts do I want to think so that the feelings in my body are aligned and abundant and energetic and compassionate. That is the energy that I want in My coaching program. Discovering that I don't have to help other people if they're not open and receptive to it. I don't have to use my energy for things that are not mine to do. Suddenly my energy came back to me and then all of a sudden I had mental energy to think of things that didn't exist before emotional energy to coach people. When you're in your space, organization is for you if you start to feel peaceful there. I loved My college dorm I loved coming into that space. It has nothing to do with how much space it is. It's what's in the space. Is it serving you? Are you in gratitude and peace when you're in that space That starts with your thought. I'm so thankful for this. I don't want too many things, because that makes me feel overwhelmed and unsettled. I want to have the right amount. I want to take aligned actions. Everything that I've chosen to put in my home should have a space and a place that makes sense-so other people can use it, and that it's not broken and disordered and creating chaos. If you're going to be in relationship with other people, it actually works best if people know in advance that the forks and the spoons aren't combined. They're in their own space. I think our thoughts and our feelings and our actions being aligned are important. Human design gives you a manual- this is why you're thinking this and feeling this and doing this. Human design says there's five different energies. I believe our body is inside of our aura, right? There's manifesters, which are the big, bright, impactful energy. You and I are both inspired by Cathy Heller, this manifester who just initiates. When you have a manifester in your life, you can feel their presence before they even speak- you know they're there. Bright lights. And so when they are organizing, it's really important if they live or share the space with other people, that they are clear and direct in their informing. They're going to walk in and begin to move things right, because they know what they want, they know where change their bringing. And so if you are a manifester, don't assume that everybody else understands your actions and what you're doing and why you're doing it. If you know that this is your design, take the time you need to communicate so that you're not confusing everybody. I love that picture for Manifesters to come into their space. They've communicated what they're doing and why they're doing it, and it's done and they sit down and they feel peace. If you don't feel peace and you feel enraged, that's a really good sign you're out of alignment and there's some work to do there. They inspire. They bring this starting energy and the rest of us who are not manifesters don't have that starting energy the way they do of creating something from nothing. But I think of every single attribute of being a human is like a 50 50, the two sides of a coin. Even though you can come in and see what doesn't exist yet, and you have that bright starting energy, because relationships require nuance and honor, and the light in me celebrating and seeing the light in you, take the time you need to communicate. And say, Hey, I'm going to begin doing this, and this is where we're going and this is why we're going there. It would serve the relationship and it will also help you keep that aligned peaceful energy. Yeah. So you're saying communication is pretty powerful. I think, whether you're at home or at work. Yeah. It's something we all need to work on. I don't know if this has ever happened to you. My mom used to get in this energy of like, now is the second that everything, this house needs to be organized. She's a generator, so she had a big burst of energy, but she would take everything out and run out of energy. And then there's chaos. And it was hard on all of us for her to get those bursts of energy and also not know how to communicate to everybody, this is what we're going to do on Saturday. Expect it to be two hours. You feel like everybody should be doing it when you have the energy and that's not how everybody works. I know and I wish I knew this when my girls were younger. I had no idea. And so they all laugh all the time about- mom's coming in and it's a 10 minute tidy and we're in the middle of our show and we have to put our popcorn down. Ah the things I could have done better with some self-awareness. I've done that too. Don't worry. Manifesters are the beginning. Think of a train on a track. The manifester is right at the front. It's pulling the train. Next you have generators and manifesting generators. Generators are the power. They're the sustaining energy. They move the projects along. I think American capitalism is based on the idea that everybody's a generator when we are not. My husband is a generator, same job, 30 years, just consistent energy. They move things along. And so a generator can do the same thing. But they need to be energized. They need to be passionate about whatever is lighting up their sacral. As a manifesting generator, there are some days I can't sleep. I'm so excited about what I'm doing as a life coach. When you don't have that thing that is your passion and your excitement and you're just doing things to get them done, you're going to lose that sacral energy and you're going to be out of alignment. Walk into a space your manifester has already come over. Maybe it's a friend, maybe it's a partner, and they're like, let's make this messy office into a dining room. This is my own life example. When my girls were little, that room off my kitchen was where everybody's homework went and their snow clothes, and it was just my messy office. And when they all left for college, my oldest daughter said, wouldn't this make a nice dining room? Let's get everything out. Let's say goodbye to it. Thank it for serving us. Let's get rid of it. Make a beautiful dining room. It's going to take a lot of sustaining energy to keep sorting and letting things go, and then put the floors down and paint the walls and go get furniture. Generators love that. They can move things along. They can work when they're energized. But they need to trust their gut. Check in with their sacral, and notice the difference between an aha an Uhuh. And so an uhha is, do I have the energy to take everything out of the closet, keep some things, donate some things, and put everything back in the closet? Or do I have enough energy to take one shelf? I think this is where a lot of people get really frustrated when they organize. The project is bigger than their energy. They think, oh, I have three hours of time, but they don't have three hours of energy. They might get depleted when they have to discern. They might get depleted when they have to move things'cause their back is a little bit sore. If you're a generator, Noticing by checking in with your gut. Can I do one shelf? Can I do 20 minutes of work? Can I clean everything under the bed? Rather than take everything out, create a bigger mess, squish everything back in the closet and not look at it again for three years. Something you've noticed either with generators in your life or just people you've worked with that when we don't know ourselves, we sometimes make the project so big that we don't get to complete it. I might know a few people like that. Like you just spit off more than you chew and we can only do this amount. I mean, I have those ideas that I want to do it all, but yes. I've noticed as well. Knowing you're sacral energy, but knowing about that will probably help you maybe bite off a little bit less. Yeah. So the sacral is the part of us where this life force comes from. It's your sexual energy It has wisdom and you can check in with it. The tool is to not use the words from your crown and your anja. Not use your head. It use the sacral uhhuh Uhuh and everybody's is different. When I talk to a coaching client who is a generator or manifesting generator, ask them questions like, are you sitting down? And I don't want them to say yes or no. I want them to say Uhhuh. Uhuh. Are you hungry? Are you tired? Do you feel like you're being supported? Do you want to read a book? Do you want to take a bath? Do you want to go for a walk? Practicing that with the small things before you get to a big thing like, should I take everything out of the basement I see this all over my Facebook this week. It's almost Christmas. Everyone is complaining that they brought everything up and now they ran out of energy and the tree's not done, and the decorating is not done, but the house is a giant mess, and they feel worse than before they even began. So trust yourself if you're a generator. Do you have the energy to do one box? Mm-hmm. Do you have energy to do everything? Mm-hmm. And learn to notice that and trust that that's your inner wisdom. So you want to be checking in with yourself on a regular basis. Do I feel satisfied because that's how I know I'm in alignment? Or do I feel frustrated with myself and with other people? Okay. Then you need some tools to get back in alignment before you bring another project into the space and make it harder for yourself and everybody else. Yeah, it's really like you're a generator that's not charged enough to run the power in the house, or you're fully charged and can take it all on. Yeah. Yeah. A really good example, your vacuum cleaner and the power's off, you're not going to get anything done even if you have the most powerful motor. Right? Yeah. So you have the manifester, then the generator. Now the manifesting generator, which is what I am, is a combination of the two. I have some manifesting and some generating. I have the ability to ask myself uhhuh and Uhuh questions. What I was told my whole life was my weakness, always is actually my strength. I'm able to do multiple things at once and pivot really easily. Now, I really do believe that nobody can multitask. You're switching, switching, switching, switching quickly. That's energizing for me. To have five or six projects or five or six books. The problem is because I'm fast and non-linear and enjoy juggling multiple interests and doing multiple projects, everyone around me who's not gets exhausted. It's too much. So for me to learn to share my enthusiasm without overwhelming others, and that's why I think partnership is so powerful. My business partner is a projector and she just helps me return again. We said we were going to do this and let's do that. Let's move here and then go to there. But she also holds the freedom for me to say, you know what? I just chatted with two friends yesterday and had so much fun. I made a podcast. And I'm just going to put it out there and not use the schedule that we already said we were going to use. I'm just going to bump this in. It's honoring both. But for me to know as a manifesting generator, when I want to do something like organize, which I love, of all the tasks of having a home, organizing is my very favorite. I love taking everything out, making the decisions, putting things back, making it better. I love boxes in the Container store, like it's just my sweet spot of joy. But I need to not overwhelm other people just because I can pivot quickly. Everyone who's not a manifesting generator does not find that easy to do. Checking in with my gut, making sure that I'm aligned to my energy using my uhha and uhuh and not overwhelming others with my enthusiasm is the work of a manifesting generator. What do you have in your family at your household? I have one manifesting generator and I have three generators. At least we're all in that sacral energy. That makes it much easier for us as well. And then, as I said, I'm an Enneagram coach. And we are five different ways of thinking, feeling, and doing life- even though there's three generators, they each do life differently. One of them thinks first, one of them knows what they want and one of them is in their heart center. It's interesting that we all, even if we have the same type of human design, there's so much nuance. We know that because every single person is their own unique expression of all of this beauty. Having that sense of self-awareness is helpful. They have a little longer of consistent energy. My daughter and I can pivot better. We're more flexible. Because you're both man gens, right? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. That's cool. How about in your family? There's three projectors and a manifester and a gen manifester generator and a generator. Oh, okay. That is a big difference to be three projectors and then the generator. That's a very big difference of energy. Yeah, my oldest is a generator and then my youngest is a mangen. Knowing that is so helpful for all of you to know, okay, there's just some more consistent energy over here. There's a little more pivoting over here. And then projectors to be aware that your energy is not 10 hours a day, seven days a week. You have smaller periods with more rest, but you have the insight that generators and manifesting generators don't always have. As you're beginning to look at a project that you want to organize, know that you have more of a focused penetrating energy. Projectors see. They see before other people see, they see deeply. They're the wise council. But living in America where the assumption is everyone's a generator. Most projectors I've met learning they were a projector, felt so compassionate, felt so useful for them to know. It was like their whole life, they felt like something was off because they weren't a generator. Did you notice that yourself, that you were comparing yourself to generators now? I mean, now that I look at it, I could probably, I can see that, and I kind of have noticed that. I was like, no wonder. Because a lot of my friends are generators are manifesting generator generators. Geez. I see the little difference in me. So it's kind of fun. The projector's whole path to alignment is making sure that someone has invited you before you share this perceptive energy. One of the things that was interesting for me when I first became a life coach, I was in a coaching program where everybody who was in that zoom had paid money to the leader. That's why we were there. We were all leaning into her. And there was somebody in the group who kept wanting to coach all of us. And everyone's leaning back and. It's interesting because that's true all through life. When people haven't asked for advice, it doesn't matter how correct we are. They're going to get defensive. They're not going to want that. For projectors to be really clear, you're not a manifester. You're not coming in and starting the fire that people are following. You are perceptive. You do have wisdom, but it's like putting your energy in a hole if you share it before somebody has leaned in in some way and said, I would love for you to share with me what you know. Have you ever noticed where you have clarity but the person doesn't seem to hear you? Oh, yeah, tons. I think my brain works in efficient efficiency and what's easiest, and so I have to learn to let people figure it out on their own unless they're wanting to hear my advice on how to do things. If somebody doesn't want me to help them organize their house or where to put things, they're not really going to hear me. Even though my brain's are calculating it, right? So I think it's things like that. And there's even little things I've noticed, in my day-to-day work and I was just like, okay, maybe I just won't put myself out there. Not that it never really bothered me before, but I just am aware of it more so I can step back a little bit. And you only have the limited of energy you have and to keep trying to give it to people who aren't going to receive it is not best for you. Yeah.'cause your energy is valuable. So of course you do walk into a space and it's clear to you, put this here, move that out, get rid of this, we'll put this over here. And sometimes it's under your authority and it's great. You can do all of that. But I think for a lot of women that I've worked with, especially in the nonprofit world, we accept responsibility without authority. That's what I did wrong at the organization I was leading. I had said yes for four months and then never renegotiated and said, I'm actually doing the leading here. I should be the person with the authority. I had no authority. I couldn't hire, I couldn't fire, I couldn't give a raise. I couldn't do anything at all. I was responsible for everything, but I had no authority. I feel like for projectors to see the difference between the responsibility and the authority, you walk in and you cannot help but see how something could be better. But it's not your space. It's her space. Yeah. It's not your team, it's their team. And so to keep your energy for yourself because you know it's limited, is best for you to stay in your aligned energy. I think it could be hard to keep our opinions to ourself at times and just be like, if you only did this,'cause it's so much easier to fix someone else's life. But people aren't ready to hear what they don't want to hear. Have you seen that anywhere where you show up and someone is excited for you to share your perceptions and they invite you and they appreciate you? Yeah. My girlfriend, she lives in New Mexico, so she texts me, what do you think? She has an antique store, so she's like, what do you think about this wall? We can't paint? And I was like, great. I love it. I'm going to share you all my ideas of what you should do. And then your energy goes up. Yeah. Yeah, because that felt really good just to, even if she goes with her own ideas, it's just fun to share and to be, and she's like, thanks for your ideas.'cause it might create different ideas in her too. What do you think about the idea that projectors can notice the difference between aligned and unaligned by the word success? How does that connect with you? Like what does that feel like when you help her and it went well and you feel successful? Are you able to notice that or is there a different word you would use for helping her? It just felt good, especially because we've been friends for a long time. So it's nice to have a connection. And it kind of puts like a little fire under my butt. Like, oh, I like this, I like to do this. This is one of my natural gifts that are easy. Like that feels exciting. I think the last few years I've been seeing like, what am I good at? What are, how do I do this? Because that's how I do everything else, and that's how I think. So it's like fun to see yourself in those new lights. I think it goes back to what's the whisper? Yeah. The whisper of somebody inviting you in and that energy, now that you notice that you can notice when that's not present and it's actually draining for you to keep putting your energy to trying to help somebody who's like, no, thank you. I want to be helped. It's so hard. I know for all of us, like it could be hard, like we're trying to put the square peg in the round hole of our life and make things happen instead of just stepping back and waiting for things to come. Putting out podcasts, that opens up things and letting people know what you're doing, that opens up doors as well. The podcast, I think is one of the best examples of this. Everyone who's chosen to press play or listen to it, they're open to you. They've invited you into their space because they're asking you to share. The last type is a reflector. And I haven't actually met any reflectors yet. It's very, very rare. Have you met any. I think there's like two in our Cathy Heller group. Okay. I haven't met them. It's the rarest type. All the chakras they're all open. And open means it's like a radio that's absorbing other people's energy. And so reflectors are constantly sampling the energy of everyone around them. They go into a space and if it's just theirs, there's probably great clarity of what they want to do. But as soon as other people are nearby, they're like noticing other people's thoughts and they're noticing other people's feelings, and that is going to be exhausting. A reflector to always take the time they need to respond. Many of the books I've read said reflectors need to take a whole month before they make any big decisions because they're so easily influenced by the thoughts and the feelings of the people around them. If you are a reflector and you want to do a project and it's just your space, great. But if someone else is going to be part of that, whether it's at home or work, make sure you're honoring the time you need and not just giving into the pressure of the people around you and their thoughts and their opinions. I think for most of us, what happens in December often is stuff comes into your home. It could be like decorations, it could be extra food, it could be gifts from people, and all of a sudden you have a lot of decisions to make. I think many people have decision fatigue and they don't notice it. And it's like, what am I going to eat and when am I not going to eat? Am I going to throw this food away? Am I going to keep this food? Am I going to buy this person a gift or not buy them a gift? And what if they buy me a gift? And it gets really overwhelming. If you can notice your type, if you're a manifester, you were designed, you were created to come in and be the spark in the life in the beginning, but you're not supposed to be the energy that moves it along and finishes up. Pass that along to somebody who wants to do that. Come in, be the vision, be the start, and let somebody else do the part that gives them life. If you're a generator to come in and know that you're big, strong energy that lasts 10 hours, it's not true of everybody else. We don't want to be pushing and judging. But you have a limit too. It's also really hard for most generators to do that beginning and that spark and that start. Once they get moving, it's great. Beginning is often hard for a manifesting generator, even though it's easy to pivot and keep changing direction. It's hard on everybody around you if they don't know where you're going. And for the projectors to know, even though you are perceptive and insightful, if the people around you are not open to your energy and your gifts you're kind of throwing away your energy to change someone who doesn't want to be changed. My years of being a pastor, I loved the fact that when Jesus would come to heal somebody, he would always ask first, do you want to be healed? So before we come and try to support somebody and give our good ideas and help them make something better, it might be worth it to say like, do you want that? Would you like to, or as your friend did, wait for them to call you directly. If You share the space at work, at home, beginning to grow in your understanding of yourself and having your own back. Having the confidence to say the yeses and nos you want to say, while at the same time honoring other people and the way they do it differently. As a projector for you to notice your generator and your manifesting generator, they do it differently, but they're not doing it wrong. That's where I think we find harmony in relationships. Has that been true for you as you've grown in your own understanding of yourself? Yeah, most definitely. I didn't even know about human design until a few years ago. I think it's really fun getting into. How did you learn about it again? I heard about it in Cathy Heller's program and it didn't connect with me the whole first year. I was a certified Enneagram coach and didn't see how they possibly worked together, and I didn't actually know my time of birth, so I was having a hard time finding what I was. When it was my time to learn this and apply it, my brain just was able to absorb it. And so I read a whole bunch of books and I went to some workshops. I, have paid Emma Dunwoody to be one of my coaches, and I got her AI to help me as I coach people. My heart is to help people grow in self-awareness so they can live a vibrant life. I think I lived an overwhelmed, exhausted life for most of my life because I overgive. I did for other people what they can and should do for themselves- over and over again to the point that I was beyond exhausted. Discovering that I don't have to help other people if they're not open and receptive to it. I don't have to use my energy for things that are not mine to do. Suddenly my energy came back to me and then all of a sudden I had mental energy to think of things that didn't exist before. Emotional energy to coach people. When I found human design, the manifesting generator was what landed first. The fact that this is how my aura, my energy works. Then discovering my profile line being a one three. The one is I love to learn. And I've always been a good student. I get energy from going to classes. I'm constantly buying new courses and programs. I love to learn. But the second number you're less comfortable with. It's hidden from you, but more obvious to other people. And the three is supposed to make mistakes as they go through life. And that is so contrary to everything I believed about being a good person. You just don't make mistakes. You work really hard to never make a mistake. And yet when I look back, every single thing that looks like a mistake was actually the very best thing for me. That job ending at the time where I thought, this is the worst thing that could happen. I have two kids in college. What else can I do? I've done this for 13 years. Without that ending, I wouldn't have had these five years to grow into the person that I am. And I never would've stepped away. I needed them to release me in order for me to go and become this version of me. So there's just layers and layers of human design we just really are at the top of the triangle with, here's five types of energy. I think as you're starting to notice, maybe I keep hearing about it and I'm interested in knowing a little bit more. Find one small step. Find your profile number, find your cross, find what type of energy you have, connect with one or two people that you can talk about it. Find one book. There's so much information, it would become very overwhelming very quickly if you're trying to figure it all out. Find one small piece. What was the first piece that connected for you? Was it finding out that you were a projector I think the projector and then I learned like the main keys about being a projector and I think it was like a light bulb. I think in efficiency, I think in puzzles. I think organize. I'd love to know what your gates and channels are.'cause I bet that all shows up there too. Everything's like a puzzle piece, so it should all go together and that's how I want things to work. I do have a lot of, energy, but also sleep is really important to me and downtime. I have to have seven to eight hours of sleep just'cause it makes me function better. Otherwise I need a nap the next day. Or I go to bed early days later, you know? I make sure I relax. I need a lot of sleep as well. As you begin to do your human design, your Enneagram, your strength finders, all of the different ways that we have to understand ourselves better, there's going to be overlap with different things. There's not one right way. There's not one way Not all projectors look the same. Not all generators look the same. There's lots of information these days about the fact that people think and feel and do life differently. I think that's very different than how my mother did it. She would have this burst of energy, no self-awareness, create chaos, get really frustrated with herself that the projects weren't moving forward. Why we really wanted to talk because more things come into our home. We become really depleted mentally with all the decisions... do we buy everybody the right number of presents and send out the Christmas cards and order the Christmas dinner. You get exhausted and it gets harder and harder to make decisions. And then you judge yourself for not being enough and not being as good as the people around you. If you can grow in self-awareness, the most important thing that happens is you have your own back. You can stand up for yourself and say, I need a lot of sleep. I need a bath every single night. It's how I recover. It's not lazy, it's not, silly of me. It's good for me. It gives me more energy and helps me to do the things that are mine to do. Projectors need to know that their energy might look completely different from a generator. A generator might go 10 hours in a day and a projector might go two hours. You might both write a book in three years, just do it completely differently. I can notice. If I did it this way, it was so much faster. Or I'll show somebody how to do something so it's more efficient. I do think that way. My mother-in-law says I'm always really fast. I'm already knowing what I'm making for dinner and the plans and then I just do it. That's why I haven't invited in any new recipes'cause I don't want to take the time during this busy time of life. Instead of inviting more things on my plate, we're doing less. I think the goal of organization is to pare down the number of decisions you're making. I don't know what you do. When my children were growing up and having to let go of things, I loved the Marie Kondo advice of saying, thank you. Mm-hmm and releasing their artwork that they didn't want. I remember I saved everything. I put in these albums for them. My oldest daughter said, mom, those are your memories. I don't remember drawing that. I don't remember going to that class. I don't remember this picture, and I don't want it, I don't want to bring it into my life. I don't want to take all this stuff with me. I had to release it and just say thank you for bringing me the joy. I kept all of their things and they all meant something to me, but that was kindergarten artwork and they were now 22 and it's time to let it go and make a dining room we can enjoy. Small steps, being self-aware, learning how you communicate. A generator and a projector can notice the difference. The projector is waiting to be invited and the generator is going to come in with a little bit of a stronger energy. The manifester is going to be starting something and we shouldn't judge ourselves that we're different. You love their energy. I'm not the one to initiate fun. I'll do whatever you tell me to do. They're doing the discerning. If somebody is ready to do a little bit of organization, and the reality is life is at the brim, there's so many things happening. There's not a lot of thinking time, there's not a lot of physical energy. What's your advice to somebody who's looking to make their space more organized and they may be really close to their limit? I think starting off by relaxing. Getting your pen and paper and write down everything that you want to do. Go take a walk because you're just putting like all the shoulds in order. I can clean my house in 30 minutes, but I could sit here and think about it all day, about all my to-dos and like, how stressful is that? We need to trust ourselves that we can accomplish the things that we really want to accomplish instead of feeling stressed out all the time. Absolutely. And, starting small. Start with your warm cup of coffee and maybe write down what you want to accomplish the next three weeks of the year. I agree. I think the smaller the step, the less stress it is on our nervous system. It's always better to say. I'm going to underestimate what I can do in 10 years, but I'm going to overestimate what I can do in a week. I've even gone from making daily plans to making a list of what I'd like to do over the course of a week. I found that I always gave myself too many things for the day, but there was usually enough energy for the course of the week. I think listening to other coaches and having people on podcasts, it's taught me to say a couple other sentences with the one sentence and then it's a softer landing. I've learned that too as a manifesting generator. I had a guest on one day- we're both manifesting generators. I write my notes out in advance, kind of bullet points to keep me aligned because I know how easy I lose attention and go on to the next thing. We did that so many times in the podcast. It was hard to just bring any cohesiveness to it because we were like, oh my gosh. And I was cleaning my closet and then I got new shoes. Do you like shoes? I like shoes. Do you like the Wizard of Oz? Oh my gosh, her shoes are great. That was the whole podcast. It was just a lot's hilarious. I'd love to be there for that conversation. I talk to people all day at work, so it's comfortable for me to ask questions and wanting to know a little bit more about people or why they think that way. And why do you do that? Which direction are you going in? Have you thought about this? I've always just kind of been that way even when I was younger. Right. You're curious and perceptive. Sometimes people lean in and say, please use that gift. Some people say the opposite. Yeah. And then it's not best to give them your energy because nobody has unlimited energy. I'm not here to fix anybody. You just want to share your own thoughts on things. And you actually are perceptive. You can actually see, systems that make things work better. For instance, you're not trying to be bossy when you say, if you just bring your plate with you, nobody has to come back later and clean for 30 minutes. If people take just a few moments, Find out something about yourself. You don't have to use human design, you don't have to use the Enneagram. There's so many good tools. There's Myers Briggs and there's strength finders. You first have compassion for yourself, right? For you to be able to say, I'm perceptive. That's a strength, and maybe people aren't open and receptive to that, but I do have it and I want to be able to use it. Find out about yourself and then stay with the small step. You're probably mentally exhausted from all the decision making, so pick something really small. I know right before our conversation today, I went to coffee shop and I did some Christmas cards'cause it's like kind need a different environment. Yeah. Just for like 45 minutes. If you can't change your house go get a coffee and do the cards there. Align your energy work on your dream, whether it's a podcast or a book, or a blog. Find a corner that you can make as lovely as you want it to be and enjoy that. Make the bigger plan later when you have more energy. It was so fun to connect with you! Thank you for joining the Live A Vibrant Life podcast. I hope our time together encourage you and will equip you with the tools you need to move into the vibrant life you desire. I'm here to help you live a brave, creative, purpose-filled life. And if you'd like to learn more. You can follow me on Instagram or Facebook, Kelly tibbits life coach, or visit my website kelly tibbits.com. I look forward to connecting again soon.