Diligence, Vigilance and Resilience

 The three stranded cord of Diligence, Vigilance, and Resilience (DVR) can guide us as we prioritize the alignment of our energy, our days, and our whole lives with what’s truly important to us. 
 
Together, DVR comprises a powerful team of allies for your personal journey. Join me as I share anecdotes from my life on this concept in action. 

Main points: 

• Diligence involves taking small, persistent actions towards your goals. 
• Vigilance is about staying alert and noticing what’s working, what’s not working, and what gets in the way. 
• Resilience means recovering and adjusting from setbacks and roadblocks.

Links 

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Live a Vibrant Life podcast. I'm life coach Kelly Kibbitz, and each week I'll be here to encourage and equip you with the tools you need to grow in self awareness and invest your best energy in your dreams and your purpose. I believe self awareness changes everything. Let's get started. Welcome hey friends, this week on the podcast I want to talk about how we can move forward in creating results that are important to us. One of the things that I didn't know before I found life coaching is that what's important to me is actually important. I've shared many times that a lot of my life, I made decisions based on whether the people around me gave information of"this is important or that is important", and I didn't often know my own thoughts, my own feelings, what I wanted to say yes or no to. Over the last 10 years, I've done a lot of work and began to understand a little bit more about the way that I think and what causes me to feel different feelings. The most important thing I've discovered is that there are things in my life that are important to me, and if I don't choose in advance to give time and energy to them, they often will not happen. Two things are happening in my life. One, my husband and I got a device called Lingo. It helps you track your blood glucose not for any medical reason, just something we're both interested in and becoming healthier versions of ourselves. And for us, it's just working really well. This is not a paid partnership. This is just me sharing some information with you. After I eat a meal. I look at the app and I see how that meal is affecting me. And I have already decided that I want to be someone who is strong and healthy as I get into my 70s and 80s. I want to live a really vibrant life. And that means deciding today to do things so that the future version of me is healthy. One of the things that we've discovered by using this product is is that if we go for just a short walk, 5, 10, 15 minutes after every meal, it totally changes the spike of our blood glucose after any meal. And it's almost like a gamifying way of getting us to do something that we already know we should be doing. But now with this information in our app, it's really helping us to make better decisions. The other thing I noticed is I'm adding a lot more fruits and vegetables into my diet because I can see right away the effect it has on my blood glucose. So I've made a decision. I want to be strong and healthy, um, 75, 80 years old and This app is helping me make small changes today that can influence my future. So I really, really love that. The other thing that's happening is we've decided to get a sauna. Now I had belonged to a couple of gyms over the last 10 years. And one of the gyms I was a part of had a sauna and stretching in a sauna really, really helped me. I don't know if it's something that's helped you, but it took away a lot of my aches and pains. And so we decided that this was something we're going to invest in. And the only place we could put it is our basement. And we have lived in this house for over 25 years. As much as I think I'm really good at making decisions and getting rid of things, when we started to try to clear a space after having 25 years of things in our house, it actually is a bit overwhelming. Luckily I have time this week to complete the process, but it is amazing by not making small decisions on a regular basis and just putting things in the basement to decide about later how much stuff we have accumulated. Right away there were just bags and bags that were easy no's and should go to the dump and should not be kept. But there are a lot of decisions coming up. And part of why we're doing this is we want a home that our children don't have to go through when we pass away and spend years trying to go through clutter. Like that's a long term goal of ours. We don't want to put anything on our children that we should be dealing with now. And at the same time, we also want to make a place that we enjoy now. Adding the sauna is going to be really good for us. What does this have to do with today's podcast? Well, today I want to talk about the fact that when we make decisions, there are three energies that we need. We need diligence, vigilance, and resilience. If you are older like I am, you might remember TiVo, the digital, video recorder. The ability to pause live television. I can still remember the first commercial. Two men are watching a basketball game and one of them pauses it. I know that's hard to believe today, but there was a time where that was amazing. The idea that you could pause live television and then record it and watch it when it works for you. That's sort of how we, you know, deal with any content we want now we get to watch it immediately whenever we want it, but that was not always true. If you remember the DVR, that might help you remember these three words, diligence, vigilance, and resilience. So each week we come together, hand on our heart, eyes closed if that's safe, you take a few breaths, you connect to the truth of who you are, 100 percent loved, 100 percent valuable, put here on earth, on purpose, for a purpose. And when you check in with yourself, do you notice what's important to you? If so, let's write it down, let's make a vision board, put it on the front of our phone so that every time we open our phone we see that word. Maybe for you it's strength. Maybe it's intentionality, enthusiasm, abundance, whatever it is. What do you want? Well, I think these three words can help direct us and make sure that we're aligning our thoughts feeling the feelings all the way through that move us towards the action steps that allow us to create the results that are important. Deciding that I want my basement to be clear of clutter is a pretty powerful thought. The feeling of going down there and having to make all these decisions involved feelings like committed determined. And then taking the small action steps from a place of love. I don't want to hurt myself, I want to pace it enough that it is done and it's not something that continues for two years, but also is at a pace that honors the reality of where I am. You know, I'm 55, I'm not 25. So the first word I want to talk about is diligence. And the dictionary says that diligence means careful. and persistent. So when we talk about the notice, decide, practice steps, we often say the small practice steps are a really important part of creating results. Small, actionable, feel like ease action steps. And I would add now the idea that these small action steps need to be diligent. They need to be careful and persistent. It is so easy. To allow the urgency of life, to allow the circumstances of what other people think and feel and do and don't do, to affect our ability to create the important results. So if you know what's important to you, can you write down 3 to 5, maybe even 10 small action steps that move you in that direction? Once you've noticed them and decided them, now we want to say, let's be really careful and persistent. The results that we want to create are not in our agency, in our control. We often use the serenity prayer in my group coaching program. We say, God, help me accept the things I cannot change. That involves the circumstances that are currently taking place. and the results that I wish to create. We are in charge of three things, our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions. Repeated actions in general create results, but it may not be how you expect it. It may not be when you expect it. So diligence says I'm committed to careful and persistent small action steps, not giving up. Keeping up with it, being persistent, being careful to stay aligned with what is important and not letting the urgency around me pull me away from what I desire to create in my own life. The next work, the next word, is vigilance. Vigilance means alert and watchful. I don't know about you, but the older I'm getting, the easier it is to stay in control. Opportunities that are comfortable, and it's harder to do things that are new and different and uncomfortable. And so vigilance, I think for me, is deciding in advance, I want to do things on repeat, where maybe I'm cold, right? It's so easy to stay in my house and not even feel cold. Where last week I told you I noticed I had forgotten how to jump. I want to start jumping and made it a practice this week. Being alert and watchful to what is important to you. It's so easy to not pay attention to our own lives. And the goal of my podcast is to remind you that you are created to live a vibrant life. And the path to that is noticing what you want, deciding it's worth investing your best energy in, and creating these small practice steps with diligence and with vigilance. Careful, persistent, staying alert, noticing what is working and what's not working. What would we do differently? And then the final word is resilient. And that's actually my word of the year. I want to, every time I get knocked down, get up again, right? Do you remember that song? I want to get knocked down. I don't want to get knocked down, but it happens. I want to get back up again. I want to recover and adjust as needed. That's the definition of resilient, recover and adjust as needed. as needed. And so maybe yesterday's plan didn't quite work. You knew the small action steps you wanted to take, and then life happened. Rather than deciding, I can't do this. I'm too old. I'm too busy. I don't have the resources I need. What would it look like instead to say, how else can I try this? What is working? Is there anything I can do differently? Is there anything I can decide today to defer? And to pause, or maybe to invite somebody in to collaborate with me, or to invite somebody in and ask them to take part of this off of my plate. If you're doing important work in your home, outside your home, noticing what's important to you is step one. One of the things I've really loved about being in coaching communities myself is the reminder that when you are an entrepreneur, when you are a mom creating a family, you don't want to create something that you don't want. I don't want to create a family where we are all so busy we never see each other. And I don't want to create a family where we are interdependent in a way that's unhealthy. I want my children to be able to go far and live their lives and keep myself aligned in my own energy so I'm not running after them. Whatever it is that you're noticing today, these three words can help guide you towards your small action steps. Diligence is saying, what careful, persistent next step could I take? Vigilance says, in light of what I'm noticing, what is working? What's not working? What could I do differently? And resilience says, of course, how human of me. I'm on the path. What I want is important. There's always going to be obstacles. Life is 50, 50, but every time I fall down, I'm going to get back up and adjust as needed. I hope these three words help you move towards your important dream. That's what we do every week in my coaching program. We take time to align our energy so that we can create the small practice steps that allow us to invest our best energy in our dreams and our purpose. If you're looking for a community that can come alongside and cheer you on as you create these important results, head over to kellytubbits. com and schedule a conversation with me. We'll hop on to Zoom for 30 minutes and talk about your dreams. Or just send me a message on Facebook or LinkedIn. I'll be back again next week. I look forward to talking to you then. Thank you for joining the live a vibrant life podcast. I hope our time together encourage you and we'll equip you with the tools you need to move into the vibrant life you desire. I'm here to help you live a brave creative. Purpose filled life. And if you'd like to learn more, you can follow me on Instagram or Facebook, Kelly Tibbetts life coach, or visit my website, kelly tibbetts. com. I look forward to connecting again soon.